Tired

Sep. 2nd, 2010 12:20 am
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So. Hi.

I guess it's been a while, but not a whole lot going on. Seeing all the shit going on over at ElJay made me remember about this, and I do want to get some things off my chest.

The biggest one, is my beloved husband. I love him more than anything. But I am so fucking furious with him right now, I can't stand it. For the past 3 months he has been working roughly 70-80 hour work weeks. Yes, you read that right. So, his schedule is that he leaves at about 6-7am, and if he's lucky, he'll be home by 7. Sometimes 8. He comes home, he *might* eat something, surf for half an hour, and then go to bed. And then on the weekends, he works for a few hours more. He's so tired, we can't do anything. We missed going to Lollapalooza when we had 3 day passes because of this. Our house looks like a pigsty, and I haven't cooked anything in weeks, because I don't know if he's even going to be home to eat it. I'm so worried about him, it's passed into anger. I just want to cry, and I don't know what to do to make it better. So I play the Supportive Wife™ role, and just wait it out. I guess. I'm just so worried, and that's why I'm so angry and upset.

And I'm losing patients again. I keep telling myself it's because of the economy, but it's really, really, REALLY hard to watch T with 3-5 patients a day, and I might have one. Again, I don't know what to do. So, Supportive Business Partner™ to the rescue!

And then there was the weekend with my parents. When did they turn into old people? My dad especially. He's turned into this bitter old man, where if something is not within his personal experience, it's a lie, and bullshit made up by the Ebol Libruls. All he does all day is listen to Limbaugh, and he's completely brainwashed by this point. At least he knew this time to not start any shit ("Don't you care about protecting America's borders?" Me: *head asplode* *piece of soul dies*), cause I had my car with me, and I would have LEFT. When did he lose all of his empathy? Or at least understanding that his life =/= everyone else's? At one point, they were arguing like the old radio plays of The Bickersons (look 'em up, they're hilarious) about whether or not a 5 y.o. should go to his grandfather's funeral. Then they started throwing acorns at each other. I just poured myself another glass of wine and ducked out of the line of fire. I guess it's part of growing up, realizing that your parents are not stuck in a time-warp of awesome, like they were when you were 8. We don't likes it, we don't!

On the upside, my sister took her board exam for OT today, already has a job lined up, and a cool sounding pre-school for the Spawn. So shout out a SQUEE! for her!

R is moving out this weekend, and I'm really very happy for her. Sucks about the bankruptcy ruling, but it's really the only route left for her to take. Gonna be weird for her not to be here, and it's going to be lonely next week when the Husband Unit is on a business trip. Thank god for WoW.

And other upsides, the cats continue to be adorable, while simultaneously full of EVIL. Pala is so tiny, I just think her EVIL is more concentrated. As long as they continue to eat the millipede invasion, I can live with her plans for World Domination (at least at the Middle Management level). Now if I could only get Callan to stop playing with his mouse right under my desk at my feet...

Yay for Fall!

eta: I promise my next post won't be so full of whinging. Promise! I might even add in some sparkle ponies! But no gnomes. They're an aberration.
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It's a saga, so please bear with me.

So there's a massage therapist, who's just graduated with his license, and he found us. He really wants to rent a room from us as in Independent Contractor. We squeal, as the guy seems somewhat nice, ambitious, and most importantly, NOT who we had before (n.b. fail!therapist still has her shit in our office. grrr). Anyway. We get a contract written up, and we all sign it. Everything is good and peachy. Cut to one week later, just as I'm about to go on my guild camping trip for 5 days. Apparently, the alderman in the Windy City got a bug up their ass about prostitutes and how they all come from massage "parlors". There is an ordinance that we would have to comply with that states ridiculous requirements such as separate dressing rooms, bathrooms, and have to have open windows so people outside can see the "patrons" (why not just call them johns while you're at it?) as they come into the space. Really? REALLY???? Oh, and inspectors from the city to make sure you comply, too.

*headdesk*

Cue much frantic calling of everyone T and I know. Our schools, people at the state level, the alderman in our district, EVERYONE. No one knows jack squat about this. There's just one buried city council minutes buried in the state site, and a few newspaper articles. T ran across a old friend of hers who specializes in business law, and he tossed us a freebie and glanced it over. He told us yes, we have to comply with it. Which there is no way in HELL we'll be able to. And I don't/can't shell out the bucks for this new license for a guy who will only be coming in 10 hours a week as a freaking contractor.

We meet with G (the new MT), and say, yes, it's really upsetting, but we have turned over every stone possible, and we just CAN NOT comply with this. So we have to tear up the contract. Much apologizing ensues on our end about the entire mess. We also give him one other option that's not entirely um... yeah. But it will give him a start as he's trying to find another place. Poor guy looks like we just totally blindsided him, and took his puppy, too. T and I wish him luck, and we think that's the end of it. T did the vast majority of the work to dig all this out, as I had a friend in town, and then we left for 5 days. She just about went apeshit trying to find all this. It's Miller Time!

But noooooo

He emails us again the next day, about how he thinks, based on the news articles in the Trib and SunTimes that we don't fall under that ordinances jurisdiction. Something about zoning laws, and keeping massage parlors *grinds teeth* out of anything but highly commercial areas. He says we'd be cool with the inspectors, as we're not a spa, not in the forbidden zones, and as a bonus, he'll pay for the Establishment license! (I don't know where he got the idea that WE were going to pay for it. It's $550 bucks. No way, Jose)


Ok. You know what? I'm done. I'm tired of being bullied, and railroaded into something I'm not comfortable with, and have already said NO to a million times. I don't want to jump through the extra hoops for this bullshit law. I don't want to have to worry about inspectors coming into my practice space to make sure we don't have naked people moaning with Happy Endings. I don't want to have to worry about what impact it will have my acupuncture license. I don't want to have to worry that it could get 3 phrases changed and all of a sudden I'm out of business. To me, those are valid points, and they're MY REASONS. I get it enough from patients, and family, and certain guild mates (who I give a free pass to just b/c I give him shit right back), and from even my own acupuncturist. Am I really weak, that when I say "No.", it's just a "ha ha, we'll wear her down because I'm right". Please, don't listen to my reasoning, that I spent hours of research, and calling, and thinking, and talking things over with my partner, and my husband. All that means nothing, because you are right, and I am wrong. Just because.

Just to re-iterate, for the kids up in the cheap seats:
NO. I MEAN IT. STOP WEARING ME DOWN TO GET YOUR WAY.

Then you get the inevitable "wow, you didn't have to be such a bitch about it". Thanks for completely and utterly invalidating me and my thoughts/priorities/emotions. That's awesome, thanks for making my fucking day. Go DIAF now.
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Ok, I just have to vent about this somewhere.

When I went to my doctor yesterday (whom I normally love to bits), she ran her hand down my back and said "You don't want to be one of those hunched over old ladies do you?" in relation to the kyphosis I'm developing on my upper back.

.....

FUCK YOU

I HATE that phrase. Do not use it around me. I know PERFECTLY well what I look like. I know my scoliosis is getting worse, the constant low-level pain I live in is proof enough of that. I can no longer touch my shoulders to the wall, I haven't been able to in years. Calling me a potential "hunched over old lady" is not constructive, and implies that the ONLY reason to worry about my curved back is because it's unattractive. Screw all the possible breathing and heart issues, it's because I won't look good in a backless dress anymore (not that I ever wear them anyway, but that's not the point).

RAEG

At least she wrote me a script for PT, I'll have to give the place a call when I get back from the guild camping trip. The best I'm hoping for is it doesn't get worse. I don't expect it to reverse what's fucked up already.

I really wish the camping trip was right now, I could use it. Misha here on Sunday!
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*blowing the dust off*

So. It's raining AGAIN. Went to the doctor, so took the day off from going to the office and just puttering around there. It's not like I have patients or anything. :P

Tomorrow we meet with our (hopefully) new massage therapist contractor. He seems like a decent guy, I hope he works out better than our last (failtastic) therapist. Nothing against her, honestly. Just didn't click with her, and it wasn't beneficial for either one of us. Wish her all the best, really. She just needs to get her shit out, especially that creepy-ass angel on a stick. I would love to shove some C4 up it's ass and push it out a window. Explosions make everything better.

*shifty eyes*

Going to try to use this more, seems like LJ might have some not so good things coming down the pike.

New things

Sep. 7th, 2009 12:50 pm
needlemage: (Default)
Hey

Just getting started, posting before I go to my acupuncture appointment. The Open House for the practice is next week, and so much to do before then. It'd be nice if I could get patients, but it's not like you can force people to get health care. I just have to keep telling myself that it will happen, have to be patient.

*sigh*

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